The fitness and personal development business is full of questions. More importantly, it's full of answers.
Unfortunately, a lot of those answers are at best incomplete and at worst flat out wrong. Why is this the case?
Because too many coaches and leaders look to appear right versus actually taking the time to be right.
The truth of the matter is, it's not just on the gurus and the coaches. It's also on the person asking the question. Often times people will ask what can be a very complex question and demand a simple answer. I understand that is how our society seems to be working now, but I would suggest that perhaps you should look a little deeper.
There is one answer, though, that will most often be the most right. If you take advantage of it then it could be the best possible answer you could ever get.
In this episode I get to catch up with my friend, Kyle Newell, The Human Performance Expert. Kyle is a gym owner in Hillsborough, NJ, but he's also an expert of pattern and habit change and brain function. We talk about some of the best ways to get and stay on a healthier path, how to change habits, how to recognize patterns within yourself, and how to face up to adversity and keep moving forward.
One of my hobbies is looking at what successful people do and breaking that down to its parts, looking for commonalities.
One of the traits that I see show up often among high achievers is that they have a "daily practice", if you will, that revolves around making themselves better.
It may not be directly related to their chosen field (although sometimes it is), but there's something they do every day or nearly every day that improves them. Some meditate. Some practice music. Some go for a daily walk. Some have elaborate rituals while others have a daily cup of coffee and read the same sections of the newspaper.
Regardless of what that practice is, choosing it with intention and implementing your own version of it will help anchor you and your success.
My own version, which I'll be releasing soon, nails down these components a little more, but really who am I to tell you how to implement your own daily practice?
Just find something that resonates with you and do it, every day.
"Weekend Warrior" is a term that gets thrown around a lot in a bit of a negative or derisive fashion, but I disagree. Almost every adult that trains is someone who I would put in the Weekend Warrior category.
If you don't have a definite sport that you are definitely training for, but still want to do some awesome stuff for your body, athleticism, and play... then you're a weekend warrior. If you do the occasional road race, Obstacle Course Race, lifting competition, ski hard, play in a basketball league, and you don't spend all your time specifically training for those events... then you're a weekend warrior.
The issue is, weekend warriors often don't perform up to their levels of expectations and they often get hurt.
So here's going to be five tips that will keep you having a blast, beating your buddies, and off the doctor's table. You'll learn:
-The thing that you should be doing and probably aren't doing enough of.
-The key areas of your body that you need to be focusing on to keep your performance high and your resiliency up.
-The training exercises that will give you the biggest training bang for your buck AND keep you from feeling like you got run-over the next day... so you can actually DO the things you WANT to do, instead of being too sore from the gym.
-The three primary training tools that you can use to cover your bases and prepare you for whatever the weekend throws at you. I learned this one the HARD WAY, and I'll tell you about it.
-How to constantly be moving forward and avoid that "stuck in a rut" feeling like most gym-goers suffer from.
Ordinary people are all around you.
There are a lot more of them then there is of you. That's because they're ordinary.
They spend their day leading lives of quiet desperation or even worse, quiet acceptance. If you listen to this podcast then you aren't ordinary. Chances are very good that you don't want to be ordinary.
So why do you do what ordinary people do?
Why do you exercise like they do?
Why do you talk like they do?
Why do you eat like they do?
Why do you even STAND like they do?
The fastest way to be extraordinary is to see what ordinary people do and don't do it.
That's your Monday Quick Hit.
Whether you want to admit it or not, chances are very good that you lie to yourself every day.
Or, rather, your brain lies to you.
It's not because your brain has gone bad on you or hates you. Actually, much the opposite. Your brain loves you and wants you to be successful... by IT'S definitions. The unfortunate thing is that you and your brain might have VERY different definitions of success!
The way it does it is that it tells you lies.
In this podcast I'm going to go into why this happens. We'll talk about:
-Why the Map and the Territory are different, and what I mean by that.
-The four BIG lies I hear every day from clients that they're telling themselves, even if they aren't liars.
-How to overcome those lies and get past them.
Another Monday Quick Hit!
When it comes to selecting goals, people most often focus on outcome goals, or goals that are based on a certain outcome.
That makes sense, right?
I mean, that makes the goal the goal.
However, the issue with that is that it can often be too far away and thus it's easy to get discouraged. This is what Seth Godin calls "The Dip".
Instead there's another kind of goal: Behavior Goals.
These behavior goals will help set up your long-term goals for success and be much easier for you to hit. I break down the difference, in Monday Quick Hit fashion, for you today in order to get you on track and KEEP you on track.
It's hard as hell to get a train moving from a standstill.
They're heavy and it requires a LOT of energy.
Your life is the same way. If you're feeling stuck then it's hard to overcome that inertia.
However, once you DO get the train rolling, then it takes far less energy to keep it moving or to steer it in different directions.
Again, your life is just like the train. Once you start the change process then it's easier to hit the next day and to fine-tune your progress.
I'm going to go over the process that I use with clients as well as what I've used to create a powerful change in my own life.
We'll cover:
-Why I want you to take a quick look at where you are now but not too long.
-The right and wrong types of goals to set and how you've probably learned the wrong way.
-The eating the elephant style of action and my embarrassing story.
-The three methods I like the most for keeping Big Mo (momentum) going.
-What inevitable part of a successful journey you need to watch out for and how to come out the other side.
RANT WARNING
I was at a restaurant this weekend and just listening to some conversations going on around me.
What struck me more than anything else was the sheer amount of complaining and "poor me" mentality that was going on.
We've all done it, so I'm not throwing too many rocks, but the truth of the matter than just bitching about a problem isn't going to do anything to help you.
Life IS going to do stuff TO you. You can't choose that. What you CAN choose is what you DO about those things. Life is a game of chess. You can't control your opponent, but you can set plans in motion that will lead to your victory... as long as you don't have a crappy victim's mentality and allow yourself to be pushed into negative situations.